Charles "C.J." McKee

A candle was lit by Caitlin Casali on June 20, 2019 8:50 PM

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Ceej I had a dream about you last night. You were sitting on my porch and had your back to me. I ran over and gave you the biggest hug and told you that I thought you were gone and you smile and laughed and said awww don’t worry I’m right here I’m not going anywhere. It was so beautiful to see you so happy, to hear your voice, feel your big bear hug and that beautiful smile of yours. I miss you more than words could ever express. Not one single day has passed without me longing to have you back with us again. I wish I had told you how much I loved you and how you were and probably always will be the best friend I ever had. You were the most loyal, sweet, generous and kind person I’ve ever known. You are always in my heart and prayers. I look forward to that day when my dream is real and we are reunited in heaven. Until then my friend just know that I miss you every day of my life and thank you for all of the memories REST IN PEACE CEEJ❤️

A candle was lit by Caitlin Casali on June 20, 2019 8:42 PM

Message from Merlin Artola

I am so sorry for your loss. I did not know C.J., I was just looking for someone with the name C. Scarff and found your son's obituary. I found some paint by numbers paintings from 1953 and was just trying to find out information. I was really touched when I read the reason why he passed away at such a young age.

A candle was lit by Merlin Artola on March 10, 2018 12:35 AM

Message from Aunt Fran and Uncle Herman

We ar saddened beyond belief that CJ is gone. He will remain in our thoughts and in our hearts forever. Remembering the many good times we shared is comforting but cannot replace the void we feel in our hearts. We love you CJ💔

A candle was lit by Fran and Herman Davis on September 27, 2017 4:25 PM

A candle was lit by A greaving mother of an addict who passed away in Feb 2017 on September 25, 2017 8:05 PM

A candle was lit by Beth Nadeau on September 23, 2017 4:34 PM

A candle was lit by Andrea on September 23, 2017 4:16 PM

A candle was lit by Tom Loubier on September 23, 2017 3:16 PM

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To Marianna & Charles, I had the Blessing of knowing your son for a brief time as his driver trainer at Walgreen's. We spent 30 working days together during that training. He was a great guy to show the ins & outs of trucking for Walgreen's. Easy going and attentive to everything I was telling him. It didn't stop there. I told him anytime he had questions to call or text me and I would help him in any way I could. I remember one particular time he called me and told me he had to deliver to our store at 1 Time Square in New York City. He handled it so professionally! A vehicle 60 feet long delivering at Time Square...other truck drivers would be shaking in their boots to think they would have to deliver in that location. He proved to me he belonged in this profession and I was proud of his accomplishment! And to find out he delivered there every Friday night/Saturday morning while on that bid!! I knew of his devotion to the both of you! He spoke of the both you often! He became a good friend to another driver I was Blessed to train, Dev James. I know he was hooked up with responsible drivers to help him in anyway they could! I will miss CJ....and my heartfelt condolences to you both! God Bless you both! Marianna you have my phone number if either of you ever need to talk. I know you have a great support system in place!!

A candle was lit by Sandy Zirolli MacInnis on September 22, 2017 8:42 PM

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Charlie and Marianne,
There are no words that can even come close to describing what you both are going through. The emptiness, the emotions that keep saying "this can't be happening". Nor is there anything I could possibly say to "make it better". Please just accept my prayers, hugs and constant thoughts for the both of you as a friend who cares but also a mom who knows.

A candle was lit by Sandy Zirolli MacInnis on September 22, 2017 8:42 PM

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Charlie and Marianne,
There are no words that can even come close to describing what you both are going through. The emptiness, the emotions that keep saying "this can't be happening". Nor is there anything I could possibly say to "make it better". Please just accept my prayers, hugs and constant thoughts for the both of you as a friend who cares but also a mom who knows.

A candle was lit by Sandy and Bill MacInnis on September 22, 2017 8:26 PM

A candle was lit by Debrah on September 22, 2017 8:36 AM

A candle was lit by Rosanne Giuliano. on September 22, 2017 7:09 AM

Message from Barbara Chirone

I do not know your son or family but I want to give my condolences. Thank you for sharing the truth of his overdose. I lost my son last year in July to a fentanyl pberdose. It's a battle that is overwhelming not just for the addict but for the family as well. My heart goes out to you all. God Bless 💚

A candle was lit by Barbara Chirone on September 21, 2017 11:21 PM

A candle was lit by Jill Cswertek _ Brown on September 21, 2017 11:13 PM

A candle was lit by Roberta Parrington on September 21, 2017 8:59 PM

Message from Anne

As a parent of a child that suffers addiction please know your family is in my prayers. I would also like to thank you for your strength in sharing CJ's struggle. We live with stigma and judgement and many of us hide in the shadow

A candle was lit by Kimberly DeNafio on September 21, 2017 4:24 PM

Message from Kathleen

I am so sorry for your loss of your beautiful son, please reach out for support threw the many FB sites, a few are Heroin Memorial . There is also a Mass group of parents for support Ma Team Sharing. From a mother that knows what its like to loose a child to this horrible disease my heart goes out to you. You see I lost my only child my daughter June 25 2015 at Baystate Medical Spfld.. She suffered for 10 years.

Message from Gabe Giella

CJ and I played town soccer for many years as kids in Longmeadow and we went to school together. I never fit in on those sports teams, and often attending games and practices was uncomfortable for me. CJ was perhaps the only person who was kind, smiling, and non-judging to me. I remember his quiet way of being at that time, and his smile. I now work in Portsmouth, RI, where the Herren Project is and in CJ's honor, I'd love to contact them about volunteering, so I'm grateful you've posted that in his tribute. May he rest in peace and rise in glory and may his memory be a blessing forever.

A candle was lit by Gabe Giella on September 21, 2017 11:29 AM

Message from Nicole Hines

I'm a complete stranger to all of you but I feel connected. My daughter is 26 and is fighting this addiction and had been for many years. I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your loss with so many people who live with this disease. It's extremely painful. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. God bless you all during this difficult time. Nicole

Message from Fran Bogdanowicz

Very sorry to hear about CJ. I had the pleasure to coach CJ in the Longmeadow Youth Football program during the 90's. CJ was a good player but more importantly a good person who always had a warm hello for Coach " B". Both his parents were great volunteers in the football program and they are in my prayers at this most difficult time.

Message from Susan Schack

Dear Charlie and Marianna,
I love you very much and am so sad and sorry that CJ is dead. He was very handsome and a nice person. Ursula is waiting to point the best way to his Higher Power. I will keep your family in my heart and mind.

Message from Kate Butler

Sending prayers of peace to CJs family. I was a teacher at LHS in the art department while CJ was a student here. He always had a smile on his face. May he Rest In Peace.

A candle was lit by Hank on September 19, 2017 4:35 PM

Message from Jane and Steve Caldeira & Family

Dear Marianna and Charlie:

We were so sad to learn of C.J.'s passing and please know that we are sending our love, thoughts and prayers to C.J. and your family. We also hope that this "cruel disease will be seen with a broader degree of acceptance and de-stigmatization and a sense of urgency will be brought to this brutal health crisis that has also taken my first cousin Joey (my father's brother's son) and that has also plagued his half-brother Anthony since Joey passed. Anthony wanted to try Heroin because he wanted to understand what Joey saw in it and he's been hooked ever since." Very sad, all-around...Love, Jane, Maddy, Alex & Steve Caldeira

Message from PAT & DJ BARNARD

SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT THE PASSING OF C.J.....PLEASE KNOW THAT YOUR FAMILY HAS OUR DEEPEST CONDOLENCES.....OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME OF SORROW.


GOD BLESS C.J.,
PAT BARNARD & DJ BARNARD

Message from Edgewater FL. Gloria Crenshaw-Mitchell

My prayers for you during this heartbreaking time. I know the pain you are feeling. Addiction. Is such a horrible disease. I pray for your continued strength and ask our Lord to hold you in his healing hands. Gloria

Message from Sue and Gary Bergmann

Marianna and Charlie,
We are deeply saddened to learn about CJ. When we lived in Longmeadow, our visits to your home were always full of CJ's energy and his proud presentations of his new "stuff" and things he was working on. Our absolute favorite memory was one Halloween, when he was all of 6 or 7 years old. He came to our house dressed in a suit and carrying a briefcase. When we asked him what he was dressed as, his matter-of-fact response was "I'm from the IRS...there's nothing scarier than that." Priceless.
We will keep you and CJ in our thoughts and prayers.

A candle was lit by Laursen Family on September 19, 2017 9:59 AM

Message from Laursen Family

Dear Marianna and Charlie
We only just heard about CJ. We are so terribly sorry for your loss. Can't even imagine what you are going through right now.
Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Christian, Camille, Soren and Annette

A candle was lit by Daniel J. Frazier, Amherst, Mass. on September 19, 2017 7:15 AM

A candle was lit by John Farrell Jr. on September 19, 2017 1:37 AM

A candle was lit by Cindy Lewis on September 18, 2017 11:31 PM

Message from Cindy Lewis, daughter of Herman and Fran

Dear Charlie and Marianne, I'm so sad to hear of your catastrophic loss of your son. I know how devastated you are from my own experience. I'll always remember our visit with you and how Marianne held my son Trenton as a tiny infant. You loved my son as witnessed in how you so enjoyed holding him. He's gone now too, passed tragically also at age 18. So now we have to learn how to go on without our babies. Sounds like CJ was a lot like Trenton, hearts full of love. They both made impacts on others it seems also, positive ones. I will keep you both close in my prayers as we manuever this bumpy crooked road we now are traversing. My deepest sympathy. Cindy Lewis

A candle was lit by Chris and Tara Fitzpatrick on September 18, 2017 10:43 PM

A candle was lit by Annonymous on September 18, 2017 7:16 PM

Message from Peter and Myra Judd

Charlie,
We are so sorry for your loss. You were a great father to C.J. I remember all of the time you spent filming football games and going to the coaches meetings, etc. He was a good kid who got caught up in the awful lure of drugs. I can't imagine the pain you two are going through. No parent should lose a child. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.